Let me first say, this is written out of my grief, love and hope for women. You may see it differently and say it is hateful, harsh, and judgemental. Let me say this: “Whoever brings back a sinner from his wandering will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins (James 5:20).”
I have often thought how I wished a Christian would have been honest with me when I was living in sin. How I might have been spared from sinning and heartache. Maybe I would have hated the person who warned me. Or, I may have repented sooner. I pray the later will be the case for you.
The Culture’s Shove For Promiscuity
Isaiah 3:9 “For the look on their faces bears witness against them; they proclaim their sin like Sodom; they do not hide it.”
Some months ago I was flipping through a secular business magazine and found an article discussing current movies. It stated that today’s movies targeting teenagers share one similar goal: to make promiscuous girls appear virtuous, and for Christian girls to play the villain.
Recently I have had the unfortunate experience of forgetting my mp3 player while working out at the local all women’s gym. This is supposed to be a positive environment for women. So what messages are promoted in the music? The messages are as following:
From a female artist:
“All my life I’ve been good, but now…all I want is to mess around. I don’t care if you love me, hate me, you can save me.”
Or from a male artist:
“I make the good girls go bad…you’re daddy’s little girl, let me shake up your world, cause just one night couldn’t be so wrong…”
Ugh. That’s not the half of it but you get the idea. This is what’s supposed to pump me up to work out at the gym. All it really makes me want to do is either throw up or weep.
Brace yourself, I have one more sample. A “Slut Walk” was recently held in Vancouver. No, I don’t like the word either but this is what it was called. The cause: Outraged that police or others would say that a women’s dress, drinks, whereabouts, or lifestyle could increase their risk of being raped, they march to take a stand for promiscuous women everywhere. How noble.
Ellen Woodsworth, counsellor for the City of Vancouver was involved. To quote their promotion of her:
“One of the most vital aspects of Ellen’s history in acting for women’s rights has been her pro-choice work surrounding abortion rights. She was part of the Abortion Cavalcade and was one of the women who chained herself to the House of Commons for this cause. She feels her pro-choice stance is in keeping with SlutWalk Vancouver’s assertion that women’s freedom and bodily autonomy is of utmost importance.”
Do you hear that ladies? It’s your bodily freedom that’s of utmost importance. Not your brain, not integrity, not what you contribute to this world, but rather your right to freely kill your babies and do whatever you want with “your” body.
I finish laying out this mess with another quote. Read it carefully.
“Becki Ross, who chairs the women’s and gender studies department at UBC, also applauds the SlutWalk organizers for working to challenge harmful cultural norms.
“’To me, the SlutWalks in Toronto, Vancouver, Boston, and elsewhere reclaim slut for all women who dare to challenge constricting and punishing gender and heterosexual norms that have historically divided ‘good women’—monogamous, virtuous, passive, subordinated—from ‘bad women’—sexually experimental, curious, and rebellious,” Ross said.”
Let’s get ready to applause- finally someone is reclaiming the equally virtuous and good right of all women to be… sluts. Something is horribly wrong here.
So, let’s examine the agenda today’s culture has for young women.
Disgrace Put Forth As Virtue
Isaiah 5:20 “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!”
Women’s rights activists would have us to be “emboldened women.” They would say if a woman feels good about herself and wants to confidently expose herself to the world, why shouldn’t she? If she has the desire to sleep around, she should embrace it whole heartedly. She is guided by her own wants and casts off society’s restrictions. There is nothing more fun, powerful, or admirable than to be a “free woman” in this area of your life.
The only type of freedom they desire to destroy is biblical freedom. The woman who freely desires to dress modestly and save herself for one man, has “harmful…constricting and punishing gender and heterosexual norms.” This is such a clear example of darkness being presented as light, and light as darkness. Sadly, the masses are buying in.
They do not hold to an absolute standard of right and wrong, or good and evil. If it’s good for you, it’s good for you. Be true to yourself and don’t let anyone stop you from doing it.
So what is the result for women and young girls who believe these lies? What is really going on here? Let’s find out in the Word of God.
The Truth about Promiscuous Women
They forget how to be ashamed.
Jeremiahs 6:15 “Were they ashamed when the committed abomination? No, they were not at all ashamed; they did not know how to blush.”
Their conscience is seared.
Proverbs 30:20 “This is the way of an adulteress: she eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I have done no wrong.’”
In their fight for freedom they have become slaves.
They become “foolish, disobedient (to God), led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing…days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another (Titus 2:3).”
They forsake the living God.
Hosea 4:12 “A spirit of whoredom has led them astray, and they have left their God to play the whore.”
They have no respect from men and are destroyed by them.
Jeremiah 4:30 “And you, O desolate one; what do you mean that you dress in scarlet, that you adorn yourself with ornaments of gold, that you enlarge your eyes with paint? In vain you beautify yourself. Your lovers despise you; they seek your life.”
They may “abort” their children on the idolatrous alter of women’s freedom.
Ezekiel 23:39 “They… slaughtered their children in sacrifice to their idols.”
By hardening their hearts through corrupt living, they are more prone to commit future adultery on a spouse.
Proverbs 5:26 “For the price of a prostitute is only a loaf of bread, but a married woman hunts down a precious life.”
They have blindly become like prostitutes.
Ezekiel 16:34-35 “So you were different from other women in your whoring. No one solicited you to play the whore, and you gave payment, while no payment was given to you; therefore you were different. Therefore, O prostitute hear the word of the Lord.”
Their lustful lifestyle may lead them to lesbian activity.
Romans 1:26-27 “For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relation for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.”
They blindly walk the broad path to Hell.
Proverbs 5:5-6 “Her feet go down to death; her steps follow the path to Sheol; she does not ponder the path of life; her ways wander, and she does not know it.”
The ironic truth is that women who want to be “free” in the area of sexuality, actually become slaves. They are slaves to their every craving and sinful lust, no longer keeping control over themselves emotionally or physically. In their fight to be “free” from the “oppression of men and cultural norms” they become slaves to lust hungry men. They are used up and dry, integrity and virtue seeping away from them until nothing is left but a hollow shell of a woman.
“How has the domain of darkness
So disguised its self as light?
There you sit as in the shadows
And the chains of death but yet
The world says “this is life,
And yes what life is all about:
To sit in darkness as if light,
To raise your bound hands high
And shout your freedom,
For you are free to do as much
Of what you’re bound to as you like.”
This world offers an illusion of freedom for women, and in the end all they find is bondage, unsatisfied cravings and lusts, disillusionment, spiritual and possibly physical death, and eventual destruction if not for the grace of God.
Today’s music, movies, magazines, and philosophies are damning for women. When I hear of it or see it all I can think is “How un-glorious.” Now, thank the Lord God that He has a great, glorious, and perfect plan for women.
God’s Plan For Women’s Freedom
What should the Lord do about us, dear women? We, whose chief adultery is against the Lord! We have taken the beauty and gifts that He gave us, and gone after other lovers. We have turned our back on Him who loves us and calls us for Himself, and said to Him “It is hopeless, for I have loved foreigners (or men, or sex etc), and after them I will go…We are free, we will come no more to you (Jeremiah 2:25,31).”
What should the God we have spurned do with us?
Well, dear friends, He could rightly say this: “I will judge you as women who commit adultery and shed blood are judged, and bring upon you the blood of wrath and jealousy (Ezekiel 16:38).”
Yet, our God is “gracious and merciful, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love (Psalm 145:8).”
He says to the same guilty group: “You may remember and be confounded, and never open your mouth again because of your shame, when I atone for all that you have done (Ezekiel 16:63).”
And now, we ought to cover our mouths in shock. “When I atone for all that you have done.”
How does God bring this atonement about?
2Corinthians 4:21 “For our sake he (God the Father) made him (Jesus) to be sin, who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.”
God placed the full weight of sin on Jesus Christ’s shoulders. He died to pay the penalty for women who cheat on spouses, steal husbands, parade themselves, sleep around, and commit abortion. There is no sin too great that Jesus blood is not sufficient to wash it away. The most holy and righteous God gave His Son’s life as a ransom for us when we were in a despicable state. All within us that God abhors, all our shameful words and ways, He placed upon Jesus. Jesus died to remove our transgressions “as far as the east is from the west (Psalm 103:12).”
To quote C.J. Mahaney:
“Because of God’s amazing gracious heart toward those who thoroughly deserve only His wrath, He both planned for and provided this mediator (Jesus) to resolve the divine dilemma- a mediator who, through His blood, would accomplish a unique assignment utterly unlike any other work of mediation. In the mystery of His mercy, God- the innocent, offended party- offers up to death His own Son, to satisfy His righteous wrath and save the guilty party from it.”
What should be our response to this mercy?
Ezekiel 18:30-31 “Repent and turn from all your transgressions, lest iniquity be your ruin. Cast away from you all the transgressions that you have committed and make yourselves a new heart and a new spirit! Why will you die?”
God says “I have no pleasure in the death of anyone…so turn and live (Ezekiel 18:32).”
If you have bought into this world’s lies about “sexual freedom” then I pray you have become aware that it will destroy you, if it hasn’t yet. Ultimately, your soul will pay the penalty in Hell. I say this, because I do not want that for you, and because God offers such a great salvation! You must forsake your sin, and put your trust in Jesus Christ who paid your death penalty when He died on the cross. Ask Him to forgive you all your sins this day. Jesus says “whoever comes to me I will never cast out (John 6:37).”
His love knows no limits, and He will cleanse you of all your sin if you will turn to Him. He will set you free from slavery to sin, and grant you a new life and a new heart. This is God’s ultimate purpose for women.
John 8:36 “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.”
2. To make a pure Bride for Christ.
Ephesians 5:25-27 “…Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendour, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.”
Revelation 19:7-8 “’Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready; it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure’ – for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints.”
The Christian woman (and man) has an amazing calling from God. We are to wait longingly to be united with Christ, and to prepare ourselves for that great day by being made holy and clothing ourselves with righteous deeds. God Himself is preparing us, and His promise is to present us as blameless and spotless before God the Son. We will be betrothed to Him forever.
Jesus prayer for us will be completely accomplished. He prayed to the Father asking “…that they (believers) may be one even as we are one, I in them and you in me, that they may become perfectly one…Father, I desire that they also, whom you have given me, may be with me where I am, to see my glory that you have given me because you loved me before the foundation of the world (John 17:22-24).”
“How deep the Father’s love for us
How vast beyond all measure
That He would give His only Son
To make a wretch His treasure.”
And so, our purpose for existing is to be saved and set apart for Christ, and to await the wedding feast when we will finally be joined with Him for all eternity. There is no more glorious purpose for women!
3. Satisfied in Christ, we submit to God’s perfect plan for singleness, marriage and sexuality.
Christ should become so glorious and supremely satisfying to us that even if we never received romantic male attention again, we would be more than content with our portion. This is our life’s aim. Be we single or married, barren or with children, healthy or diseased, rich or poor- God is enough for us.
That being said, all sinful lusts in us must die. We should no longer find our satisfaction in attention from men.
I only want to touch on this topic briefly.
Are you single?
Let me says this: “You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body (1Corinthians 6:20).”
If Jesus Christ has ransomed you, He now owns you. What greater Master is there? You were once mastered by your sinful flesh, but now Christ rules you. He loved you so much that He died for you! So glorify Him with your dress and your speech. Be a modest woman, exalting Christ with your body.
You have a unique opportunity to be committed to service and evangelism, and I would encourage you to wholeheartedly live in devotion to Christ. Be a satisfied single woman. If you are waiting and saving yourself for your husband, don’t waste time pining away. Rather, be on fire for the gospel of God with a love for dying people.
Are you married?
Among other things (caring for the needy, sharing the gospel etc) married women are called to “love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled (Titus 2:4).”
I will touch on all these points briefly. We are called to:
Love. Isn’t this what all women desire? The world wants us to have endless cravings after many men, and the result is hardness of heart with no tenderness or affection. What a wonderful calling from God, that we should love our husbands and children.
Practice Self Control. We are no longer to be slaves to our emotions and perceived rights. I think of this verse which proves so prosperous in the life of a woman: “Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil (Psalm 37:8).”
Be Pure. This applies to every area of our lives but I think of this verse: “Let marriage be held in honour among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” Our heart, mind, and body is set apart for our husbands alone, and we are never to stray into adulterous ways.
Work at home. This is another way to love our families, by providing them with a pleasant home to live in, and by meeting their physical needs. The woman who does this will find great fulfillment and blessing. Proverbs 31:27-28 “She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.”
Be kind and submissive to their own husbands. You mean not demanding our rights? Not ruling over our household? Not calling our husbands fools for forgetting something, or nagging them endlessly? Yes.
Let’s really consider this: what women ever felt peace and joy in being cruel and acting superior to their husbands? No one. When we follow God’s ordained plans for marriage we have peace, rest, and joy regardless of our circumstances. His ways are always higher than ours.
“That the word of God may not be reviled.”
I love this. Everything about our lives reflects on God and the truth of His word! This should motivate and inspire the godly woman.
I pray that in reading this, you would put away the lie that sexual and reproductive freedom is of “utmost importance” in the lives of women. Do not destroy your soul for the pleasures of this world. Your eternity is at stake, and Christ is at hand.
Final Verses To Consider
Psalm 16:5-6,11 “The Lord is my chosen portion and my cup; you hold my lot. The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; indeed, I have a beautiful inheritance…You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.”
Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”